Frequently Asked Questions

What to Do if Your Loved One is Suicidal

If your loved one is experiencing suicidal thoughts, it can be an incredibly overwhelming and distressing time. The first and most important step is ensuring they are safe and not in immediate danger. If they are at risk of harm, don’t hesitate to call emergency services or take them to the nearest hospital.

Once their safety is secure, the next step is to create a safe, supportive space where they feel comfortable expressing what they’re going through. Listen without judgment, offering compassion and understanding. Let them know you care and that their feelings are valid.

Afterward, it's crucial to help them connect with the right resources. This could include a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, or their doctor. If their situation is urgent, seek immediate help through emergency services or a crisis helpline.

Remember, supporting a loved one through this difficult time can be challenging, but you're not alone — there are professionals and resources ready to guide both you and your loved one toward healing.

Understanding the Risk Factors of Suicide

  • Previous Suicide Attempts

  • Mental Health Disorders

  • Substance Abuse

  • Chronic Pain or Illness

  • Family History of Suicide or Mental Illness

  • Social Isolation or Loneliness

  • Major Life Stressors or Trauma (e.g., loss of a loved one, financial troubles)

  • Hopelessness or Helplessness

  • Exposure to Suicide (through media, friends, or family)

  • Youth and Elderly Populations

  • Impulsive or Risky Behaviors

  • Lack of Access to Mental Health Care

  • History of Abuse or Trauma

  • Cultural or Societal Pressures (e.g., discrimination, societal expectations)

Community Resources

1. Local Counselors Can Help: A licensed counselor in your area can provide personalized support, helping you or your loved one navigate through feelings of hopelessness, anxiety, and depression. They offer a safe, confidential space to talk and work through mental health challenges, including suicidal thoughts, and can connect you to additional resources if needed.

2.Crisis Assistance Team (CAT)
A mobile crisis response team that collaborates with law enforcement to serve individuals in crisis throughout the community. They respond to various crisis calls, including suicide, and provide evaluations and referrals for treatment.

3. Western Montana Mental Health Center
Offers a 24-hour crisis line at 406-752-6262, providing immediate support and assistance to individuals in crisis.

4. Montana Suicide Prevention Lifeline
A national network of local crisis centers offering free and confidential support 24/7. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255, or dial 988.

5. Crisis Text Line
Provides free and confidential support 24/7 via text messaging. Text "MT" to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor.

6. Flathead County Health Department
Offers various health services, including behavioral health support. Located at 1035 1st Ave. W., Kalispell, MT 59901. Phone: 406-751-8170.

7. North Valley Behavioral Health
Provides mental health services and is part of North Valley Hospital. Located in Whitefish, MT.

8. Logan Health Behavioral Health
Offers acute inpatient services for individuals with mental health disorders. Located in Kalispell, MT.

9. Nate Chute Foundation
Focuses on suicide prevention and offers various resources and events aimed at raising awareness and providing support.

10. CRYJ (Center for Restorative Youth Justice)
Maintains a list of mental health professionals who work with teens and are accessible to individuals of all income levels. Contact them at 406-257-7400, text 406-200-8184, or email for assistance.

When to Seek Professional Help for Suicidal Thoughts

If you or someone you care about is experiencing suicidal thoughts, it’s crucial to recognize when professional help is needed. While it’s natural to feel uncertain or scared, seeking help can save lives and provide the necessary support for healing. Here are key signs that it's time to reach out for professional help:

  1. When Suicidal Thoughts Are Persistent:
    If suicidal thoughts are ongoing or frequent, even if they’re not accompanied by plans or actions, it’s essential to seek help. Persistent thoughts about death, dying, or self-harm signal that deeper mental health issues need to be addressed.

  2. When the Thoughts Become More Intense:
    If the suicidal thoughts intensify, become more specific, or involve plans or actions, immediate professional intervention is necessary. This can indicate a higher risk of attempting suicide and requires urgent attention.

  3. When There’s a Sudden Change in Behavior:
    If someone begins withdrawing from social interactions, neglecting responsibilities, or engaging in risky or self-destructive behaviors, it may be a sign that they’re struggling more than they’re letting on. This could be a cry for help and a clear indication that professional support is needed.

  4. When There’s a History of Mental Health Issues:
    Individuals with a history of mental health conditions (such as depression, anxiety, or bipolar disorder) or previous suicide attempts are at higher risk of suicidal thoughts. Even if symptoms seem manageable, it's crucial to keep monitoring and seek professional help when necessary.

  5. When Family or Friends Notice Warning Signs:
    If those close to you notice signs of hopelessness, drastic mood changes, or conversations about death, it’s important to take these concerns seriously and encourage your loved one to see a professional.

  6. When You Feel Unsafe:
    If at any point you or your loved one feels in immediate danger, whether through thoughts or actions, it’s critical to seek professional help immediately. This could mean reaching out to a therapist, calling a suicide prevention hotline, or going directly to the emergency room.

  7. When Self-Help Is Not Enough:
    If you or your loved one have tried self-help strategies (such as journaling, exercise, or talking to friends), but those strategies don’t seem to alleviate the distress, it may be time to consult with a counselor, therapist, or psychiatrist. Professional treatment, such as therapy or medication, can provide the necessary tools to manage suicidal thoughts.

  8. If the Person Refuses Help or Is Resistant to Seeking It:
    Even if someone resists seeking help, if you believe they’re at risk, it’s still important to take action. A mental health professional can provide advice on how to approach the situation, and in extreme cases, emergency intervention may be required.

Professional help is not a sign of weakness, but a crucial step toward safety and healing. If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional, crisis hotline, or emergency services.

What to Do if Your Loved One Refuses Help

It can be heartbreaking and frustrating when a loved one refuses help, especially when you know they are struggling with suicidal thoughts or emotional distress. While you can’t force someone to seek help, there are steps you can take to offer support and encourage them to get the care they need.

  1. Be Patient and Compassionate: Understand that your loved one may feel overwhelmed, ashamed, or afraid. Their resistance to help may stem from fear or stigma around mental health. Approach them with empathy, offering a listening ear without judgment. Reassure them that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

  2. Provide Information: Gently share resources, such as crisis hotlines, therapists, or counseling services, and let them know they don’t have to go through this alone. Sometimes, just knowing where to start can make a difference.

  3. Offer to Support Them Through the Process: Let them know you’re there for them and offer to help find a professional or even accompany them to the first appointment. Knowing they’re not alone in the process can reduce some of the anxiety they may feel.

  4. Respect Their Autonomy: While it’s hard to watch someone you care about struggle, it’s important to respect their autonomy. Pushing them too hard could make them withdraw further. Let them know that you’re always there for them whenever they’re ready.

  5. Take Immediate Action if Needed: If you believe your loved one is in immediate danger or at risk of harming themselves, it's important to take action, even if they refuse help. Contact a mental health professional, a suicide prevention hotline, or emergency services (911) to ensure their safety.

  6. Seek Support for Yourself: Supporting someone in crisis can be emotionally draining. Consider reaching out for counseling or joining a support group to help manage your own feelings and gain guidance on how to support your loved one.

Remember, offering consistent support, understanding, and patience can help your loved one feel more comfortable seeking help when they are ready. While you can't force someone to seek help, your unwavering presence can be a lifeline when they are ready to make that crucial step.

"Reaching out for help is a brave first step — support is available, and you don’t have to face this alone."